(Part 3) 3 Questions For CRYSTAL CLEAR Expectations

Paul Lyngso
(Part 3) 3 Questions For CRYSTAL CLEAR Expectations(Part 3) 3 Questions For CRYSTAL CLEAR Expectations

Last week we covered 2 out of the 3 questions to ask to have clear expectations. (you can re-read the first two here and here)

The first two questions are:

1.What do you want? (really, truly want)

2. What do you need?

To recap- knowing what you want is about tapping into your actual desires.

Not what you think you “should” want, or not downplaying anything for fear of seeming vain or selfish.

Knowing what you need is simply setting aside all the fluff.

It’s about understanding what step you need to take, for your specific journey, at this moment.

That leads us to the third and final question:

What are you willing and able to invest into the process?

When I think of the investments that go into any sort of health plan- I see a few major areas:

Mental Energy- how much Bandwidth can you put into this?

You have to be willing to put some thought into changing your life, it’s not going to happen on accident.

Changing habits requires mental energy and intentionality up front.

Yet, how much mental energy you are ABLE to put in is dependent on outside factors.

Do you have a spouse? Kids? Career?  These all compete for mental energy.

Emotional Energy- are you willing to break old beliefs?

Are you willing to look inward, and tap into a strong reason for WHY this is important to you?

Willing to shed some old skin to emerge stronger and more confident?

Willing to let go of relationships that no longer serve you?

Evolving requires letting go of our “old selves” and being willing to claim a new reality.

We may be judged for this (or fear being judged for this).

Looking inward at what we need to let go can be painful, and stepping into a new identity takes courage.

If I’m being real- many people fall short here. They’re either not willing to do this work, or they’re not able (don’t know how- and most coaches don’t talk about it).

The next two areas of simply a matter of logistics-

Time and Money

Do you have the time and money to put in, and are you willing to invest that time and money to move your life forward?

Obviously, different goals need different levels of time and money.

If you want to do an Ironman- you need to train up to 15 hours per week.

You need a bike, a plane ticket (usually), hotel stay, access to a pool.

That’s an extreme example, but you get the point. It takes time to execute a plan, and at some point you’re going to have to spend money on it.

Going after a goal requires varying levels of investment of resources- specifically-

Mental Energy

Emotional Energy



To make sure we have CRYSTAL CLEAR expectations- it’s a good idea to understand the resources that go into it .

Then ask ourselves if we’re WILLING and ABLE to invest those resources.

Much Love,



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